Tracey Thurman Story
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Tracey Thurman is known as a Connecticut housewife who suffered domestic violence done by her husband, Charles Buck Thurman. The dreadful abuse came to a climax in one bloody night when Buck Thurman stabbed Tracey 13 times. Buck was then arrested, and Tracey could be saved by doctors.
Thurman Law was resulted from Tracey’s effort when she sued police officers as she failed to get proper protection from the local police force in 1989. Tracey Thurman was left partially paralyzed and received a $2.3 million in damages in 1985.
A Cry For Help: The Tracy Thurman Story, a film inspired by Tracey Thurman story was made in 1989, first aired on October 2, 1989. Nancy McKeon, who played Tracey Thurman in A Cry for Help, starred in the film in the hope that it would keep Buck Thurman in the prison for a longer time.
My ex has custody of my daughter and lives with her abusive boyfriend. I tried to get custody of my daughter and the judge ended up cutting MY visitation. My exs son even testified on my behalf. My ex denied everything. since the hearing he has threatened both my ex and his son at gun point. his charges were reduced and I still can’t get custody of my daughter. My daughter thinks that he won’t hurt her and everytime I bring it up she gets mad at me. I just watched this movie for the first time and am going to find the DVD and watch it with my daughter. What my ex does is up to her but how can she put her daughter in that position. i don’t understand the legal system or her. if he ever touches my daughter it will never go to court. I will be judge jury and executioner and have no qualms about it. I will hold my ex to the same standard. it’s not like she doesn’t have a way out. she has moved out 3 times and her parents took her back and took care of here. As far as I am concerned the “Justice System and DHS” are as much responsibloe as my ex. she is an alcoholic and has the charges to prove it but the Judge didn’t care. I was even assaulted by here ex and 2 of his friends when I returned Dakota. he pled guilty and still nothing was done. it’s all bullshit and lipservice. nothing has changed.
I was in high school when i first watched A cry for Help: The Tracey Thruman Story. I remember saying that I never wanted to be a victim of that kind of hatred. But three years later, I was a victim of domestic violence for three years. I did survived because i know that I had to protect my children from harm. I pray for all women that are in domestic violence relationships.. i pray that even though they think there is no way out. there is always a way..Please get help and please tell someone.
my name is jessica claybaugh madain name neff im 35 now but in early 90s i was 14teen my mother was beaten by my sisters dad for 11 years and he beat me cause i wasnt his daughter and molested me for 11 years he daosnt know were we r at mom since then remaried to a good man and me ive gotten help for what has happend to me but when we lived with him it was hell police did not help we had to help our self we left in the nite and went were he couldnt find us untill my mom got enogh money for a house some were eles and a couple years later he found us but this time we stood up to him hes threats that he would kill us next time were just theats he did nothing he wanted to see my little sister ann who that was her dad she told him to she wanted nothing to do with him. And for me i told him to go or i was going to kick his ass i was older now not this little girl anymore it felt good and he left we never seen him again but i still have bad dreams. IM married now to a wonderful man and have a son now. Weve heeld but the scares are still there but i will never let a man do that to me again or my mom but there needs to be tougher laws and the courts need to listen a little more to us now were safe but we never forget. I hope tracey thurman is safe and thanks to her law we can be a little safer but still we need more laws. thanks jess
Nothing has changed. My daughter was abused by her husband who also sexually molested her 3 year old daughter broke my toe and bruised my ribs when he hit me. The police didn’t help us then and even after several restraining orders they didn’t help us. Every time we called they acted like it was no big deal and most of the time they wouldn’t show up until after he was gone. One cop had the balls to ask my daughter if they were still married and stated that he was her husband and had certain rights. We all know that most cops are corrupt and useless. I had hoped that when this movie came out it would help change the way pigs (cops and men) treated domestic violence. Boy, was I wrong. NOTHING HAS CHANGED!
So sad to read these stories, and even more horrifying to know that there are authority figures out there that exhibit this behavior. Who knows maybe “those cops” are abusive as well…some cops are as depicted in other true stories/movies. I am happy for those of you who got out of those relationships, and pray for those who are yet in them. I suffered enough abuse as a child…adoption as a result; I be damned (excuse my language)if I allow it as an adult!!! I am so over-protective of my daughter; and teaching my daughter to be the same way (never let anyone abuse you mentally or physically)!
This is probably the 4rth time I have watched this movie since it first aired. Everytime I watch it I not only get mad but I cry uncontrollably. I get so upset over the nonchalant attitude of male authority figures that as a wife/girlfriend you are expected to act a certain way. No human being has the right to physically abuse another, especially when they aren’t as physically strong as you are. Men today are using mental abuse to attack a woman’s self esteem—eventually the physical abuse will come.
I just hope the mom’s and dad’s of today bring up their girls and boys to have great esteem and not take mental and/or physical abuse from anyone
I saw the movie for the upteenth time last night & it still irks me that Buck basically got a slap on the hand. He should’ve got life for what he did. As for the police dept, women should have balls, instead of men. We as women put up with a lot of crap from men, mentally, physically, emotionally, not only in our home life, but even at work. I was a victim of domestic abuse with my 1st husband and my daughter was conceived by rape. But after years of abuse and continuous threats on my life and being told that nobody would ever find med because I would be cut up in bits and that my daughter would never have her mother ever again, I finally had enough of that bull crap and got the BALLS to stand up to him by telling him if he wanted to kill me, that he could kill me in front of the cops (he probabaly would have if he had the balls), but he didn’t call my bluff. So, here I am today, divorced twice, happy with a beautiful daughter who has given me 4 beautiful grandchildren. As for the 1st husband, he’s gone now–cancer. It’s funny how God works in mysterious ways. Buck will have his day when he meets his maker. For all the women who have made comments about being in an abusive relationship or even knowing someone who is in an abusive relationship, pleae find the strength within yourself and get out. There are many of us who got out and there are many of us who have given good advice from what I have read. Before you can love anyone else, you need to love yourself first and foremost. God bless Tracey and her family. God bless her son CJ who seems to be on a path of destruction, may he find the peace that he deserves. And to all the women who are being abused, bless you all and may you find the strength within to get out before it’s too late.
I saw this movie several times growing up and I always said that nothing like that will ever happen to me, but it did; and not just once. I was raped repeatedly at the age of 15 and several more times by other men between the ages of 15 and 24. I conceived a daughter from one of those rapes, but I love her very much and my first husband knows how she was conceived but he has always claimed her as his. After my first marriage failed, I started dating again and soon remarried a man that I thought was just the greatest. A week after we were married I found out he was smoking crack and he became very violent. One evening he put my own 9mm to my head and just ask me if I wanted to f..ing die. He dared me to say a word, and I knew that if I opened my mouth he would pull the trigger. During the time we were just dating he was a good man except he would force me to have sex when I didn’t want to. Anyway, I left the day after he stuck the gun to my head and he actually left me alone and I have not had any problems since from him. I started dating again a few months later. This man seemed so different, but after just a few short weeks into our relationship he started forcing me to have sex with him all the time. The word no was a game to him. He would just tie me up and the more I struggled or fought the more he would hurt me. I was constantly going to work with bruises all over me, and of course everyone noticed, but like most women I would just make up some sort of excuse. He had already told me that he would kill me if I left, and I had my three children to think about. Eventually, I stopped bringing my children home with me, I let them stay with their father where I knew they would be safe. However, my boyfriend had two children of his own; they were older but her was very hard on them especially his daughter and I would step in and take the beatings so he wouldn’t hit the children. I did try leaving but he would always find me. He tried to run over me, run me off the road, and threatened to set my house on fire with me in it. So I stayed a little longer. One day after I found out he was cheating I was talking to his daughter about leaving; she was 11 at the time and she simply told me ” nobody leaves daddy, he will find you, daddy does the leaving.” When an 11 year old tells you this you really start to wonder how deminted this person is. I knew he had already shot one person and got away with it. So I just stay and endured all I could until the hurt turned to anger and then hatred. I finally started to fight back. The last day we were together I lit into him and I didn’t give up until he called the police. The police listened to his side of the story and refused to listen to me and even threatend to arrest me for assault. He didn’t press charges though; he would get his revenge later when the police were gone. And he did; he raped me one final time, this time something in him clicked and he knew he had done wrong and he even ask me if I wanted to call the polce or should he. I let it go and cried myself to sleep. The next day on my son’s birthday I went and talked to the detectives and told them what had happened and told them that if they would make him leave my house I would not press charges. He did leave my house but just moved up the street with his ex wife; so I still had to live in fear of what he might do. After he found a new woman he left me alone though and I haven’t had to deal with him for 5 years now. Now I am married to a wonderful man that doesn’t even yell at me and he adores my children and they adore him. We haven’t had so much as an arguement in the past 4 years. we have what most people would call a fairy tale romance. Still to this day though the ghost of my past haunt me and I keep waiting for him to hit me, and if we try to be intimate I still tense up and cringe when he touches me even though he has never forced me or even tried to force me to have sex. I never sought any kind of psychological help and have never really talked about any of this until now. But if there are women out there who read this please don’t be afraid to ask for help. There is always a way out and never make excuses for anyone. No one can make you feel inferior if you don’t let them. I had no where to turn. My family was not the type you could talk to about this kind of thing, I couldn’t go to the police cheif because he himself used to lock me in a room with him and assault me. who was I going to tell; he was the police cheif; and the main detective that we had was a male that was later arrested and charged with rape on a 14 year old. I found if you don’t fight for yourself, no one else is going to do it for you. women, just remember you are stronger than you think. No kind of abuse physcial, mental, or sexual is worth it no matter how much you think you love someone; be it your father, boyfriend, husband, or other. You are human, strong, and beautiful.